Having trouble with your goals? Remind yourself of the law of opposites while you’re struggling with things like, “Should I go to the gym today? Should I eat that? Should I pay for that? What if I…” Etc. It’s pretty simple, but people tend to forget this fact, and you can also apply it to any other facet of your life. It goes like this:
At any given moment in time, in relation to any specific goal, you will have two choices to make, and they will be opposites.
If you stop and think, you can carve any situation down to a choice between two opposites. You might have to fight through a ton of emotions that inevitably cloud and supposedly complicated any situation, but at the end of the day you will be up against two opposites, whether you realize it or not. It’s Binary code. The same simple yes or no, 0 or 1, on or off, that is the core of how your body works, how your muscles work, how computers work. You can’t escape it. Don’t try! You can waste time and years trying though.
Are you going to eat the cookie or not? Is it in the best interest of your goals or not? Do you need it or not? Is it a cheat meal/day or not? Could you eat something better or not? Are you going to the gym or not? Get your decision down to the black and white. Not the supposed gray areas that the brain usually tries to make, in order for you to deal with your insecurity about whatever it is. Are you going to fix your credit or not? Are you doing things to move toward that goal or not? Are you serious or not? Are your actions showing it or not? Weekly, daily, hourly if need be.
Now I’m not passing judgement at all. There’s plenty of times in regards to health, business, etc., where I have to remind myself of this as well, usually on a daily basis. It’s sobering. And it all relates to a few other articles I have planned, one titled, “Get Serious.”
“But you don’t have kids, you don’t have to, but i have to…but I …” I’m not passing judgement or talking about emotions here. Contrary to popular t.v. shows and what kind of ideas of “training” people get from media, emotions are complex enough and you’d think that a trainer needs to be a part-time or wannabe psychologist nowadays. But it’s not needed. We all have issues, so when it’s time to get down to it, and focus, the best thing you can do is either drop it for a minute or hour and focus, or try to put the negative into your workout or your motivation to get better. There’s no need in trying to spend a bunch of time diagnosing, because at the end of the day you’re going to be back at the two opposite choices anyway. Skip it for now and get to decision making. This way you can get serious, own up to your choices, and move on. “Ok, I don’t need the girl scout cookies, but I’m going to eat them. I know it’s not in my best interest. So later I won’t wonder why goal A,B, and C are evading me, and I won’t ask The Fitness Tutor to make me a meal plan because he’ll laugh at me.” Ya know, kinda like that. Like me. I know I don’t need the Pizza Hut Personal Pan that I have my mind set on for later tonight, but I’m probably going to get it! I won’t wonder about any of my fitness goals in relation to this decision because there’s nothing to worry about. It’s just how fast i want to make them happen. I just took a step in the wrong direction! I can talk about how I felt, business stress, how my day went, etc., and that won’t change a thing about the facts in relation to my decision and my goal. I know it’s a step backwards. I’ll own up to it. Lets at least agree to get out of denial.
Are you walking the walk or talking the talk…trying…trying…trying, always trying? Been trying for years? Either you’re ignorant of what it takes(hey now you’re in the right place) or you’re not serious about the decisions you’re making daily(hey now you’re in the right place). Well quit trying, and remember the law of opposites. Let it motivate you! If there is some other option in regards to ultimate decision making, please let me know. You either will or you won’t.